By HAYLEE BATES, Columnist
College can be a confusing time with classes, clubs and organizations, homework and trying to have a social life; it can be even more confusing when you try to add relationships into the mix.
In high school I read a book called “And the Bride Wore White.” In this book, Dannah Gresh asks the reader to create a list of qualities they want their future husband to have. I created a list after reading the book, and I have changed and updated it many times since.
Here are some of the things that I think are really important to look for when looking for a future spouse. I’ve learned that it’s okay to have high expectations and standards; the right guy will live up to those standards.
Find the person that..
- Loves God more than he will ever love you.
It is important to find a guy that puts God before anyone else. If he doesn’t love God and follow Him faithfully, then he will not be able to love you the way a husband should. We all have to know and love God first because God is love (refer to 1 John 4:8).
- Doesn’t make you feel like a burden.
A relationship shouldn’t be arguing and fighting all the time. You need to find someone that you work well with and that doesn’t make you feel like a bother or a nuisance.
- Wants to make a difference.
So many guys in college think that partying and being able to talk to every girl on campus is attractive. Well, in my eyes it’s not. If a guy wants to impress me, I want to know how they are impacting their friends and witnessing to others.
- Makes you laugh.
In my mind, the right guy will be someone that can make me laugh. When I’m having a bad day and things just don’t seem to be going right, I want to be able to count on him to make me laugh or smile.
- Has similar interests.
For me, I like to get out and do things, or go on adventures as I like to call them. I like to do things outside, and I like being active. Don’t get me wrong, going to the movies is okay every now and then, but I would much rather be outside going on “adventures.”